Mama, you’re tired, consumed by family life, and maybe even a little touched out. It’s common for moms with small children to feel out of it, drained, or lost all together. The woman who once occupied all that space within you has had to make room for some beautifully new, exciting and sometimes challenging priorities. And no matter how much those little smiles keep you going, you have to do things for you to replenish and fill your own cup.
That’s why I created this course.
So many of my clients have come to me year after year in a state of chaos, unrecognizable to themselves, ready to get back in touch with their sensual self.
When’s the last time you were in the presence of your own sexual energy?
This course is built to bring up key concepts to help you reshape the woman- and mom- that you are. One that is not just there for her beautiful family, but for herself. So that she may live from a place of abundance, where she is connected to the things that make her feel like herself.
This course is designed to help you:
- Find power/feel empowered through reconnecting with your sensuality and your strength of being a woman
- Discover how reconnecting with yourself helps to open the door to reconnect with your partner
- Begin to define/redefine who your sexual self is through clear tips and resources to rediscover a part of yourself that has been lost, submerged, and stifled through the journey of motherhood
- Learn what may be hitting the breaks and hindering you from accessing your most vibrant sensual and sexual self
- Reclaim confidence and joy through embracing and integrating different parts of yourself to live a more wholehearted life
Who is this course for?
New moms and moms with young children who find themselves catering all of their time and energy to their children, finding very little time and energy for themselves and their partners.
Moms who feel disconnected from themselves, who feel like they are losing a sense of themselves (or a part of themselves) in motherhood.
Mamas who feel disconnected in their relationship with their partners.
A Look Inside The Modules
Managing And Shifting Expectations
Expectations play a significant role in all facets of our lives and relationships. It’s important for us to bust through the limitations these expectations may be having on us. Being a mother, a caretaker, is inherently not erotic. Our sexual self thrives off of adventure, curiosity, mystery, adventure and the unknown, which often fuels desire. However, children and efficient family functioning rely on consistency, repetition, routine and structure, which is the exact opposite of what turns us on sexually. Let’s dive into helpful ways we can begin to switch between roles.
Get To Know Your Sexual Self
What is Sex and Intimacy Anyway? Intimacy is more than sex, and sex is more than intercourse. Intimacy involves all of the ways we share a deep and meaningful connection with our partner. There are several different types of intimacy - spiritual, intellectual, emotional, recreational, physical and sexual. If we can take a step back and broaden our perspective just a little bit, we can experience intimacy in countless ways throughout our day. We can often access the sexual through the sensual - activating our senses help us to better embrace and potentially become engulfed in the present moment - physically feeling and sensing our partner and environment opens the door to the pleasure available within intimate moments.
Strengthening The Relationship with Your Partner
Why is it important to make your relationship a priority? When you are on the same page as your significant other, and you are working together as a team, you can better navigate through various problems that often arise as your children grow and enter inevitable life cycle changes. Studies show that the most resilient children and families stem from couples who have a solid foundation and a mutual connection of love and respect for themselves and each other. Taking care of each other’s needs, emotionally and physically, are essential to maintaining a happy and healthy marital relationship. Your family’s quality of life starts with the quality of the parental unit. With the development of confidence and security, passion and peace within your relationship, you and your significant other will be a positive role-model for your children and their future relationships.
Strengthening The Relationship with Yourself
Sexual desire is deeply entwined with your feelings about yourself…. If you don’t feel good or comfortable in your own body, you’re less likely to share your body with someone else. Positive self-esteem also leads to a greater sense of self-worth. When we feel worthy of love and connection, we’re more likely to engage in and be receptive to intimate experiences. When we feel good about ourselves, we often feel alive and vibrant; this vibrancy is often magnetic and draws others in, especially your partner. To improve one’s overall health and well-being, self-care is essential. There’s a reason flight attendants stress the importance of putting the oxygen mask on yourself first before assisting children - If you are not able to breath, you become of no help to your child or your family as a whole.
Managing Stress and Overwhelm
Stress can become a major “brake” in our sexual desire and sexual response in several ways. One is the way, the increase of stress hormones (i.e. cortisol) significantly decreases our ability to access other “feel good” hormones (such as oxytocin, serotonin and dopamine), while cortisol also decreases our estrogen levels, which play a significant role in lubrication and desire. Stress is also experienced in both the mind and body, as we often experience a physiological response when something is affecting us mentally and emotionally. Sex can be a fantastic way to alleviate and release stress that has been built up in the body, while sex can also be a great source of stress some (especially in response to pressure and past negative sexual experiences). Some people use sex to help manage day to day stress, while stress shuts others down mentally, emotionally and physically.
Cultivating a Support System
Authenticity and vulnerability often go hand in hand. Vulnerability requires courage to sometimes relinquish our need for power and control, while also coming to terms with the fact that we don’t always have it all together and we all need help at times. Embracing vulnerability entails letting others in - asking, accepting and learning how/where to ask for help from others. So many moms feel alone in their experience because society often tells us we have to figure everything out on our own. We are not meant to live in isolation. It not only takes a village for your child, it takes a village for you.
Wrapping It All Together
You were partners before parents! Keeping the intimate partnership alive is vital to the life of the family. When couples lose sight of each other, they risk losing the family altogether. We must be mindful of the ebbs and flows of life - It’s important to recognize the limits within different phases of relationship and family cycle. This phase of life comes with significant shifts in identity and normalcy. When you don’t have time for yourself, you become disconnected from yourself. When you don’t have time with/for your partner, the relationship becomes disconnected as well. If you are not able to take the time to reflect on these shifts, it can feel like you have very little influence in the direction your life is taking. It’s time to take back the reins and take your seat of power as a woman, which will empower who you are as a mother.
Rachel is an incredible resource for moms. Becoming a mom often is accompanied by an important transformation both physically and mentally. Through her incredible compassion and expert insight, Rachel has helped our I Help Moms community step into our authentic self, embrace the changes that come with motherhood and help couples discover applicable ways to enhance deep emotional connection. As a mom of 3 myself, I highly recommend Rachel and her courses at Infinite Intimacy!
Founder/CEO of IHelpMoms.com
I cannot say enough great things about Rachel! I started seeing her with my Husband in 2019 for marriage counseling. She worked wonders for our marriage and has truly gifted us with the tools needed to have some of our best years as a couple! During the pandemic, I was suddenly placed into the position of a stay-at-home mom (of an 8 month old & a 2 year old). This huge life shift made me feel like I was completely losing my identity, dreams, and self worth in the process of being a “good” mom/wife & keeping my family healthy and happy. After a few months of “drowning” I shifted to having 1 on 1 sessions with Rachel to discuss my “lose of identity” challenges. Over the last two years, Rachel has guided me in making mental and physical changes to start intentionally living in my purpose again and rediscover my passions. She has helped me see my own worth in a time when I felt very unappreciated. When working with her I feel seen, heard, and always leave my session with takeaways I can implement in my life!
Hi, I’m Rachel!
You deserve to feel safe within your intimacy, and I'm specially trained to do that. As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a Certified Sex Therapist, my main mission is to help you foster true intimacy within yourself by guiding you through the therapeutic healing journey.
My mission is to help shed light and foster love within yourself and your relationships, and I am dedicated to helping you find your voice to create your own love story - outside of what the storybooks and society have to say.
Frequently Asked Questions
I’m way too tired and touched out to even think about sex, why would I sign up for this course?
I am flooded with responsibilities! How will I find the time to do this?
Sex is a problem my partner complains about. Why should I be the one expected to fix myself in this way?
How long will it take to complete this course?
Is this course for all moms?
Mama, I can’t begin to imagine all that you have going on, but the truth is, you are just as important as your children.
You deserve a life of fulfillment.
We’ve all heard of the saying “life doesn't get easier, you just get stronger.” Even though this is a time commitment, you’re going to step away from this course with new skills that can help you change the way you show up as a mom, as a partner, and as a woman.
Ready to embark on the journey back to yourself?
Become That Sensual Woman Now